how to respond to rude questions....
We've adopted 3 kids from foster care (special needs) and are adopting another one soon ,also with special needs.I am often asked (by family members, friends or other well-meaning people, I guess) if we get "paid" for taking these kids in .
I think in the case of some people (like my mom and other family members) they are concerned about how we can afford these kids. First of all, we live debt -free, unlike most of America, who have to have car payments and a fancy house, we live below or means, but we are not poor at all.
Yes, we get a subsidy and state insurance. Otherwise there is no way we could afford to adopt the children we have ,some with severe medical needs.
But I don't think that's anyone's business, although I suppose the information is out there online somewhere.
So how do you respond to rude questions like this?
I am usually caught off guard, so I need a pat answer . Generally I say the state provides healthcare for what our insurance doesn't cover, and that we get a kind of "child support" to help raise them and take care of their special needs. It's not like we are making a living off these kids or becoming millionaires...
Source: http://forums.adoption.com/foster-parent-support/405629-how-respond-rude-questions.html
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